Be Patient and Do Good
January 26, 2013

Tok Ayah was a batik trader. He would often travel to Kuala Lumpur from Kota Bharu to meet his clients and counterparts. And one day, I remember vaguely, I joined one of his business trips to Wisma Yakin, together with another cousin. We were sitting on a bench near Jalan TAR, and he had just bought us each some kebab from the roadside stall.

As we were munching away, paying no attention to anything else, he imparted the following words of wisdom on us,

“If you want something in life, be patient and do good. If you don’t get it now, God will give it to you in the afterlife.”

Of course, that wasn’t how he said it word-for-word. We were probably 8 at the time. But that was the gist of his advice and he made it simple for us to understand.

I’m not sure if my cousin still remembers this occurrence, or even that day. But these are the words that I’ve held dear for more than 20 years now. While I may not have put it into action all the time, I do go back to it to steer myself straight.

Today I had the honor of being among the sons and grandsons who bathed and prepared him for his burial. Tok Ayah left us this morning at the age of 88, leaving behind great memories for us to cherish.

Thank you for everything, grandpa. We love you. Al-Fatihah.


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  • Asrif, b. 1983
  • Subang Jaya, Malaysia
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